So you think your partner doesn’t get you

You asked us:

I think my partner just doesn’t get me.

Here’s what Amity has to say:

Well, you’re not alone, we hear these exact words all the time. Don’t despair though, there are things that you can do to try and ensure that you get EACH OTHER. Relationships are two way streets after all….

What might make it worse:

The easiest place to start is to be honest when something is bothering you. Just saying ‘nothing’ or ‘I’m fine’ when they reach out to you doesn’t do either of you any good. You’re obviously not and they feel validated in their walking away as you’ve basically given them permission!

What might make it better:

Be vulnerable, open and honest. How can anyone be expected to ‘get’ anyone else if they are only given part of the picture.

Try this small (but mighty) suggestion next time your partner asks what’s wrong and see if breaking old habits can hopefully help you on the path to a relationship where you both feel valued and understood.