Inter-parental conflict
Support families to understand and reduce conflict, strengthen relationships, and improve outcomes for children. Our evidence-informed training and resources help practitioners recognise, respond to and confidently work with parental conflict across a range of family situations, from early intervention through to more complex circumstances.

Amity Training and Resources
We have carefully created a comprehensive suite of resources and associated training to suit everyone working with families, adults and children. Our training is delivered by experts either face-to-face, virtually or via our digital learning platform. Some of our self-help resources require no training.
The Amity Relationship Dynamic Assessment Tool (ARDAT)
The Amity Relationship Dynamic Assessment Tool (ARDAT) supports professionals in understanding whether relationship dynamics in the couple relationship are more consistent with inter-parental conflict or domestic abuse. A core feature is its side-by-side comparison of parental conflict dynamics and abusive dynamics. Supporting relational conversations and providing pathways to support. ARDAT is an early support framework for anyone working with families.
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Parenting Apart Sessions
This comprehensive 6-session structured resource is specifically crafted for practitioners to facilitate directly with parents who are navigating the complexities of co-parenting. The resource encompasses a variety of practical strategies, tools, and materials aimed at fostering respectful communication between parents, particularly in situations where conflict is affecting their children. By using this resource, practitioners can assist parents in developing healthier interactions and reducing the negative impact of their disputes on their children’s well-being.
iCAN Dads: The in control, assertive, nurturing parenting resource
This structured one-on-one parenting resource is guided by a practitioner. It is designed for parents and caregivers of children up to 18 years old, with a focus on enhancing parenting skills, confidence, and self-esteem. This resource is specifically created for fathers who wish to strengthen their relationship with the child they care for.
Parenting Together Sessions
This concise 6-session resource is designed for practitioners working with couples or individuals. It provides a structured approach to help navigate relationship challenges, offering practical tools to address everyday stressors such as parental conflict and communication difficulties. The resource equips couples with insights and skills to enhance understanding and strengthen their relationships.
Just a Phase
This guide equips you with practical tips, real-life examples, and conversation starters to understand your teen better and strengthen your relationship with them. It also includes signs to watch for, strategies for handling difficult conversations, and resources to access further support, ensuring you feel prepared for the challenges ahead.
Amity Curiosity Cards
Amity Curiosity Cards are designed to support brilliant relational practice one conversation at a time. These laminated card sets are designed to sit in a practitioner’s bag, ready to be whipped out. They offer prompts, conversation kickers, and Amity’s unique interactive tasks, helping your teams feel confident about maximising every interaction with families.
Spotlight Session: Understanding The Impact of Parental Conflict on Children
This half-day training course is for anyone who wants to develop their understanding of parental conflict and how it affects children. The session provides participants with a strong awareness of the subject, how to start a conversation with someone about a relationship facing this challenge and what to do next.
Relationship Toolkit
This practical resource is designed to help any organisation improve its approach to building better relationships with parents. The Amity Toolkit is an essential 88-page universal support resource intended for practitioners working with adults or entire families. It aims to enhance their confidence and skills when dealing with parental conflict. The Amity Toolkit has been independently evaluated and is widely used across the England and Wales.
iCAN: The in control, assertive, nurturing parenting resource
This structured one-on-one parenting resource is guided by a practitioner. It is designed for parents and caregivers with children aged up to 18, with a focus on enhancing parenting skills, confidence, and self-esteem. The resource aims to help parents become more confident, calm, and capable in their parenting roles.
The Amity Group: Healthy parental relationships
This parenting resource can be delivered in-person or online. Over six sessions, individuals or couples raising children receive support in a group setting to enhance their parenting relationship. This includes improving communication skills and strategies for managing conflict.
Next Time Parenting Together or Parenting Apart
These quick and easy to use self-help resources are available in both digital or physical formats and digitally downloadable in any language. They provide practical problem-solving strategies and ideas for couples or separated parents who need a “communication repair first aid kit” after an argument or disagreement. The goal is to enhance their communication and improve their responses to everyday conflicts, so children are less impacted by adult relationship issues.
The Little Book of Relationship Care
This popular little book serves as a practical and reflective self-help guide aimed at helping people understand the reasons behind their arguments and how to reconnect with one another. It provides strategies for navigating conflicts in a more constructive manner.
The guide supports couples in reflecting on their strengths while tackling challenges. It’s also highly effective with practitioner guidance, making it perfect for community settings.
Spotlight Session: Understanding Relationship Dynamics: Inter-Parental Conflict and Domestic Abuse
This engaging half-day session is designed for anyone working with children, adults or families who want greater clarity and confidence when thinking about family relationships. This training explores the relationship dynamics that sit behind what practitioners see and hear. Participants will develop a clear understanding of inter-parental conflict and domestic abuse, including coercive and controlling behaviour, and why these experiences affect children differently.
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We unpack the similarities, the crucial differences, and the areas where uncertainty often arises. Through practical examples and discussion, practitioners will learn how to make sense of what they are noticing, what questions to ask, and how to respond appropriately when concerned about a family. By the end of the session, participants will feel more confident identifying concerns, understanding risk, and knowing what action to take, ensuring families receive the right support at the right time.
